The Good The Bad and The Unlovable

Often I hear people refer to a simple however seemingly vast statement in matters of a persons psychology; that "they are unlovable". That is a very big statement to make about self or other. Recently I heard how a psychologist mentioned to his client's personality as "unlovable". I am not sure of the context it was said however the client now feels vindicated, perhaps by way of diagnostic label, as if he has the disorder UD (Unlovable Disorder).

I must admit to knowing many people who consider themselves unlovable in some way and see how they go out of their way to not have close relationships in their lives. It is indeed a Script in their life. The only problem I can see with this type of thinking or behaviour is when the same person is forever looking for the perfect relationship in their life. Underneath they are unawares of their hidden trend (Script) towards unlovable status. One can imagine the frustration and dissapointment involved for a person who works against themself in such a manner.

"Why Me" one might cry, as they assume the 'not ok' and unlovable status once again.

Saying that one is Unlovable is a mouthful.

Wikipedia on Law of Attraction

The Law of Attraction is commonly associated with New Thought and New Age theories, beliefs, and practices. It states that people experience physical and mental manifestations that correspond to their predominant thoughts, feelings, words, and actions and that people therefore have direct control over reality and their lives through thought alone. A person's thoughts (conscious and unconscious), emotions, beliefs and actions are said to attract corresponding positive and negative experiences, or "harmonious vibrations of the law of attraction". The "law of attraction" states "you get what you think about; your thoughts determine your experience."end quote

The laws of attraction say that I have to think or do 'Good' in some way to get something good back in life. I was never one for bookeeping or accountancy however it seems the 'ledger' for some people I know is constantly in the red no matter what they do!"

Perhaps these laws of attraction could be ammended to include victim impact statements and perhaps offender mediation? A high court appeal avenue for those erroneously charged with unlovable status would be fair don't you think? Lawyers will make millions from the number of "unlovables" willing to sue those who make the Laws of Attraction.

Get me out of this Unloved place

Lately it seems there is a rush on Unlovable status in my neighborhood. Perhaps in the psycho-social trends there are special offers and cheap plans for the Unloved presently? In my small sphere of the world perhaps the laws of attraction are working perfectly and therfore my blog investigating the 'unloved'. So what about the millions of people that fit the Unloved category? They do seem to continue hugging their unlovablness like its the only love they have available.

Who will love these guys?

So is there a problem with not having close and intimate relations? Not if its not a problem for you, in my view. It's ok to love self and be content with self. However humans do seem to have an instinctive drive towards having loving relations, its the way humans survive. Perhaps the "unloved" are rebelling against a tide too great, that biological-innate pull towards being loved in life.

The Unlovable character in the movie "Little Miss Sunshine"

There are certain outcomes in life for a person adhering to their Unloved status .

Lonely, Sad, distant, victim, angry, lots of space, low phone bills, isolated etc

So what do the Unloved really want?

To Be Loved?

If that is the case, it does seem that the Unloved are going about things the hard way to get what they really need. It might be that the Law of Attraction is indeed incarcerating the Unloved unjustly. The Universe and Laws of Attraction are getting it wrong! Perhaps the Unloved would do well with a better lawyer or even Therapist to help the person broadcast that they are really lovable and they are waiting patiently to be loved again.

So, do you think you are Unlovable?

Victim and Lovable

Kenoath