Is it the weather or is there something going on in the stars? I was even cancelled by my dentist this week which resulted in my own supervision session being cancelled. I have dealt with many intermittent cancellations over the last ten years however when there are several cancellations all in a matter of hours, I begin to wonder about the "collective". Teenagers can easily not be around for their parents to bring them in for counselling rather than taking responsibility in saying they don't want to come today. For some clients I have an idea that some part of the "not coming" to a session relates to recent situations in their lives they wish to avoid. "Won't Come"! I wonder what they are hiding from?
Perhaps it is the Moon or the stars, like Seasonal Affective Disorder. On my other blog (Kingsley) I talk about the current state of Astrological effects and it seems to be spot on for this week happenings. I feel ok about clients taking a different approach because it means that something is changing for them. Not many clients like getting a cancellation fees however their decision in not coming must say something for them.
I know I don't like going to the dentist because my teeth are pretty average. I know the dentist won't be critical of me but somewhere in the back of my mind there is some resistance to put myself in the chair. Perhaps I will feel bad? I will have to confront myself with the reality of my fillings etc. I know that I am not bad, even one or two of my teeth are bad. Well, this week I made an appointment only to be cancelled. Phew! Hang on, I need to get something fixed and it has taken me some effort to be assertive to make the appointment.
I can understand that clients need to cancel occasionally. There is a perceived degree of pain perhaps that some clients can't or wont face. In my mind that is the best time to go to counselling because there are some issues close to the surface. I know the spate of cancellations recently have nothing to do with my abilities and my cancellation fees will hopefully be paid.
Sometimes its just a matter of making a decision not to go. In my mind that is not a bad thing. At least the client is in some way making a decision from their child part
kenoath
6 comments:
I know the feelin' Kenoath,
Yes the reasons for not attending counselling can be wonderous indeed.
Feel good my man!
Graffiti
I have learned from my experience that in majority, perhaps ninty percents, of the occasions that I have cancelled, or missed my psychotherapy appointments, I was avoiding the 'pain of change'( or as we state " I was escaping").
Interesting enough, I had a dental appointment yesterday my time. Telling you the truth, I was so eager to cancell it, but I did not. In spite of my discomfort, I managed to make it to the dentist!
Best,
Maryam.
Ohh Ken,
I don't go to the dentist. Deliberately even! Like, i make the decision to not go. I don't make appointments either. Not to the dentist. If ever a tooth hurts then i may think about it but that's different isn't it? I mean, if it's already hurting then i'm already in pain so why not. But to go to the dentist when it doesn't hurt already? Well... nope.
I've never been to counseling but i remember when i was little, sometimes i would miss a piano lesson or 2. Sometimes it was even deliberate but i remember pretending that i just forgot. They were after school and i would walk to the teachers house and after the lesson Mum or Dad would pick me up. But sometimes i just caught the bus home and either did forget or pretended that i forgot.
I have been feeling tired and sad yesterday and today. But i was able to sleep (unbroken sleep) for about 6 hours last night and i woke up so well and feeling so great. Shopping at 7.30am is so much better than any other time and this morning it was wonderful Ken!
I hope your teeth don't hurt. It's yucky when that happens. I hope you can get them fixed and feel better soon.
roses
Ken,
I looked up the hypocampus thing. And i read that sex to guys is an emotion? Holy smokes! That's just too much for this little black duck to conceive!
http://www.ecsd.com/~rhhedgz1/brain.html
It's under the heading "Emotion".
If that's true - then why don't they teach us that early. Actually, do they teach that at all!
Sex is fun, physical and very enjoyable, its how we have babies (mostly i think) and, for someone like me, just for the couple within the relationship - BUT an emotion????
Gosh, that can't be good for the guys!
A pretty worried... roses
Interesting point. I always feel uncomfortable cancelling, so I always go. The last time, I knew it would just lead to a blow up, that I was too irritable and all that to go...but it was so awkward for me to cancel that I didn't. And sure enough, blow-up ensued. Probably would have been better to cancel. Sometimes people just have bad days. Be glad they know it.
I have weekly counselling sessions at the moment and every week I think I won't go this week. But I think I have a big AC in there and I always end up going. LOL Maybe one week I should allow myself to cancel? Or maybe it is good that the AC keeps me going?
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